Weddings vs. Elopements: Choosing the Celebration That Fits You
One of the most common conversations I have with couples starts with this question: “Should we elope or plan a full wedding?”
It’s a decision that doesn’t just shape your day—it reflects the intention behind it. While weddings and elopements can feel like opposite ends of the spectrum, they both carry meaning. The real difference often comes down to emotion, purpose, and what feels most honest for you as a couple.
The Case for a Wedding
There’s something timeless and beautiful about a wedding day. The family heirlooms, the handwritten vows, the generations gathered under one roof—it’s a celebration of more than just your relationship. For many, a wedding is also a gift to the people who helped you become who you are. It’s a way to honor roots while stepping into something new.
That said, I’ve worked with plenty of couples who feel the pressure mount quickly. Planning a wedding often comes with high expectations, layered logistics, and (let’s be real) the occasional family drama. The size and scope of a traditional wedding can make it harder to stay present in the emotions of the day.
If you love the idea of dancing late into the night with your favorite people, or having your grandmother help you into your dress, a wedding might be your moment. But don’t be afraid to scale it in a way that still feels true to you.
The Intention Behind Eloping
Elopements today are less about secrecy and more about focus. They're quiet, intimate, and often soaked in emotion. Whether it’s two people on a mountaintop or standing barefoot in their backyard, elopements cut through the noise and center on one thing: the couple.
I’ve rarely met anyone who regretted eloping. It’s not that it’s “easier,” but it can be more intentional. There’s freedom in choosing only what matters most—no filler, no pressure. If you do choose to elope, remember this: you can always throw a big party later. You’re not missing out—you’re just prioritizing presence first, celebration second.
That said, eloping isn’t for everyone. Some people thrive in the joy of a full room, the speeches, the traditions. Others feel most grounded in stillness and simplicity. Neither is right or wrong.
So—Which One Is Right for You?
The truth is, there’s no universal answer. There’s only what fits your values, your energy, and your relationship. I’ve documented both types of love stories, and each has left a mark on me. What I’ve learned is this: the most memorable celebrations are the ones that are rooted in emotion, not expectation.
If you’re still unsure, that’s okay. I’d love to help you talk it through.
Set up a consultation with me and my team, and let’s explore what kind of day feels right for you—whether it’s a grand celebration, a quiet ceremony, or something beautifully in between.
